Emery, I'm sorry that you are struggling with this. Special needs children are just that:"SPECIAL"! I think the best thing for you to be to stay as stable as possible with your BPD and take a mind-set that you are dealing with one of God's Special People and they are to be loved and nurtured respectfully. If you get over your head with this, seek out one of the state agencies that might possibly give you some help with your daughter. Maybe someone to come to your house and work with her on any
developmental problems she might have, such as speech, etc.

I have a grandson that has Down Syndrome. His parents are involved in everything. Special Olympics, the league of the basketball, hockey teams do work here with special needs children. Having yourself involved in her life with other parents with
special needs children is a boon to the parent; good for her and a social helpful thing to yourself.

I understand about her feeding off of you on her emotional reactions. My dil
is involved in the PTA, Down Syndrome Assoc and works for the state here in Okla.
with Sibs Shops for siblings of disabled/special needs children. If you can involve
yourself more with her needs, I think it would be very helpful to you as well. I do not have BP but I do realize this is a serious problem to you and hope what I'm saying here is not too overwhelming for you. Take care of yourself and that very special young lady. bj