I agree with Sannah. As hard and embarrassing as it is, our Ts are the ones we need to talk about the transference with. No one else can possibly help because it's what we need professional help for. It happens for a reason and that's what we're in therapy to work through--those intense feelings that make us think we're crazy. We have to continue talking about them until we are done, like the article says. I thought I was getting "done", but I'm not, so I will bravely march into my next session and ask for help with my feelings. My T and I will be "curious" about them together. Can you look at it like that? You and your T will be curious together. It's not about being ashamed or embarrassed of your feelings, but about accepting them and understanding where they come from. We can do this together, Squiggle! "The best way out is always through".