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Originally Posted by Anika
... I am having problems in real life, that I am scared to post about, have no one to talk to about without consequence, and there is just no simple fix, or answers in sight, and I am feeling really confused... Are any of you good compartmentalizer's ?...
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OMG can I ever relate to this. More than it is possible to say. Sorry to say that, because it really really sucks, wouldn't wish it on anyone, and I'm so sorry you're going through it!!!
Hmmm. Good compartmentalizer? Pretty good. Like kindachaotic, not sure if it's a healthy thing or not, but... I do try to do it with things that are truly out of my control, especially if there is a specific timeframe they're going to "go down" in. My thinking is that I need to recognize what is out of my control and let it go. Worrying will NOT change the fact of having no control over it, so why add the weight of it to the pile? Cross that bridge when we get to it. Till then it doesn't exist.
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Originally Posted by Anika
...I think the weight of the issue and the burden of keeping it to myself is the hardest. I'm a talker by nature, I just loooove to talk stuff through...
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I'm
not a talker, so I can only imagine how hard that is for you,
being a talker!
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Originally Posted by AniManiac
...I also find that there's a lot of value for me in writing about what's bothering me. It gets it out of my system, so to speak. It doesn't solve anything, but writing often helps you think through the issues you're trying to address, so I really support that effort..
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This is a good strategy. Though in doing it one of my
aims is to get it out of my system, it doesn't work all that well
for me. (It would probably be more effective in that if it weren't for OCD(!))
Even so, it is really effective for sorting through. It can get to be a real jumble up there, and it helps in being able to put it in a distilled, logical form (which is utterly impossible when it's
inside my head). It also does help a bit with "stop" thinking. "It's already down. All of it. You won't forget anything. No, really, it's all there." (After spinning for months, writing it out numerous times, jumping out of bed another 17 times ever single time for addendums, it really IS all there!
It'd be funny if it weren't so aggravating.)
So, all that is to say that even if it's not effective in every aspect for you, it's still worth doing.
