1. Because she doesn't really speak like this! Well, not exactly.
2. Because she loves me
3. Because I love her
4. Because I believe with my whole heart that she has the competence, skill and commitment to help me heal myself. I believe this because I see the evidence in my life.
5. There's no 5. I think no. 4 is the deal breaker. I was always afraid that no. 3 would be the deal breaker, and I would stay with someone who hurts me because I can't see past my love for them. But actually, for now, it's no. 4. I stay because I believe it's good for me.

thanks, skysblue, for the most helpful question ever!