I have been reading some things about erotic transference. It states that once the client confesses this to his/her therapist, it is up to the therapist to handle it. The client has done the work by confessing it. It is now up to the therapist to help the client work through those feelings.

I also read that the therapist has to be firm that the erotic feelings cannot continue. They must be worked through in order for therapy to be successful with these two people. I don't want to confess this to my therapist, and she tell me I need to see someone else since this is the second time I have brought it up. It just seems from what I read, the therapist is not to be so gentle and caring when it comes to this issue. They have to be very direct and matter-of -fact about it.The erotic fantasies cannot come to fruition and the client (with help from a therapist) needs to work through those feelings and put them where they really belong. Wherever that is!

I am not in love with my therapist. That has nothing to do with my issue at all. These fantasies are unwanted and I don't understand them.