Need some thoughts on a relationship issue I'm having right now. My only irl close friend and I used to see each other once a week for lunch and walking in the mall.

Then about a year or more ago, she started to not be available as often. She seemed to have real reasons, doctor and hair appointment, funerals out of state, etc. But then it felt to me as if she was starting to put "limits" on how much time she wanted to spend with me. So I respected that.

It only became worse - more often. I mean, she and I didn't see each other much at all. I finally asked her if I had offened her in some way and that I was sorry if I had.....she hates confrontation and said she didn't feel offended.

But it felt like she was pulling away from me all the same.

So, I started doing the same thing. Not that I made up excuses to not go places, but I just stopped inviting her to run with me to the mall etc.

Then she told me about a 'bad situation' she had with her other friend, someone that rented a house from her. My friend was actually this other lady's AA sponser and they had a big blow up that ended in my friend telling this lady that she had to move out of her house. My friend told this other person she thought she should go find another AA sponser and was shocked when she was told "I already have months ago"!

Okay, I get that she felt hurt, angery, used. This other friend of hers had been behind on the rent, had taken advantage of her and trashed the house.

I've never done that sort of thing to my friend. But she has continuted to pull away. I know she has trust issues etc.

Then her sister and she had a big blow out and it resulted in a simular situation. And then a brother "re-appeared" in her life YET AGAINn and she finally stood up for herself with him. She flat out told him he coulnd not be part of her life.

She shared with me about the painful past relationship - how he terrorized her during her entire life.

I've not done anything to her and yet I feel like I'm in that same catagory. She doesn't want to be hurt by me so she avoids me.

I'm tired of being avoided and it bothers me that I haven't called her. Do I keep trying or do I just continue to give her space and hope she will call me? I miss her. I'm thinking I don't want to be hurt either.

Maybe I'll just post her a facebook message "miss you".

Any ideas?