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Old Mar 02, 2012, 11:58 AM
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Originally Posted by farmergirl View Post
It is probably more about your perceptions of her than it is about her actually changing, particularly physically. Maybe what happened last Wednesday was about you making progress in reaching a point of trust with her. You've been real resistant to that so far, so maybe you let your guard down and now you are second guessing yourself.
What Farmergirl said!

I think you and T both know that you have a difficult time trusting. And I think she's smart enough to know that if she did anything to be tricky or manipulative, your trust would be ruined. She wants to help you, so why would she do that?

I think the more focused we get on ourselves (either because we're thinking we're messed up, or thinking we need to hide from other people or whatever), the more we assume that what other people do is directly about us/in reaction to us/whatever. I know for myself that sometimes if there's any way to read someone else's behavior as related to me in some way, I'll find it!.

Just a thought. But my biggest thought right now is, "Granite, it was a good session. Please, please, please just remember that and let the rest go if you can."
Thanks for this!
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