OH I am sooo sooo sorry Adria (Jahda). I have lost several therapists for different reasons. I've never worked with one as long as you have, though. I worked with one for 2 years and I received a letter from her office that she would be moving. I was crushed. I wish she would have told me in person. Fortunately, she sent the letter out a year before her move so there was time to process it. She has allowed me to contact her and I have actually had lunch with her a few times. But those times have been very few as I have moved on.

Another time, one of my therapists that I had seen for 6 months died very suddenly of a massive heart attack. Quite a shock and very upsetting. I still am in shock about that.

To me, it seems your therapist's job is to help you find another therapist - to refer you to someone. That would be the professional thing to do, especially since he has worked with you for so long. Have you asked him for names? Has he given you time to process this with him?

With the T that moved, she didn't know of a good T in this area, so I basically was on my own to find one. I randomly picked in the phone book and just gave it a try. I didn't trust the new T at all and mostly poured out my anger and distrust of her and told her she was nothing like my old doctor. She listened and listened and I saw her for 2 years. I was never as close to her as I was to the previous one, but it helped me make it through the grief. I tried several other Ts, but didn't care for them. I've just recently found one that I think I really like.

Time was really what helped me and distractions.

The "No new Patient" thing can sometimes be worked around. Find out if they work with DID and C-PTSD or not. If they do, explain that your old T is moving and you really need someone experienced in that area, could they please consider discussing this with the doctor or could the doctor personally call you to discuss referrals. Find anyone to see to help you through the grief and loss until you can find someone that you can connect to again.

Sadly, I have had to just go within and do some major grieving, get really angry, be really lonely, cry a lot, and keep on going. Very very lonely and sad and I do not wish this on anyone.

I think your T is a ***** honestly for saying no contact. I'm so sorry you are going through this.

I had to reach out to others like you are doing here, find a way to get involved with things, and write a lot.