i don't remember my T ever saying please either.she has tried to coax me to come out of my shell in various ways.bye asking me not to go in my shell to begin with.she seems to know when it is happening.she will say my name over loudly sometimes to accomplish this but as far as talking i think she knows that one is on me and will not ask me to talk.i think she knows that would turn into a power thing that i will win or if i am way to scared i just couldnt and she will just sit with me for the whole session if need be