Your comments, on this thread and others, are really helpful to me too, so thank you too. I would think being referred to a t by a pastor you trust would be incredibly helpful in supporting you to believe in the process of therapy and in your therapist. I think it's good you get through the painful, "crash" part relatively quickly, though sorry you had to go through it and hope it doesn't happen much for you.

I should explain I'm not feeling lack of acceptance from my t right now, I was talking about what I felt before. I was hurt because right after I told him about some really personal stuff, he suggested I come back in a month or not at all. He explained at the next session that he was reacting to my statements (before the personal stuff) that I was doing better, and that I couldn't deal with some of the personal stuff now. He was trying to respect what he thought I was saying (though I still think the respect was rather cold and detatched). He was extremely accepting and supportive at that next session. I guess I don't completely trust that he didn't do the cold, warm change somewhat knowingly, but I'm trying to trust that even if he did have a sense of how it might upset me, he's doing it with good intentions.