Bully was the word used by the OP. "You might receive that as pestering, nagging, anger or even bullying. But as long as you are under my care I will take care of you." I have no objection to anyone deciding they do not want to work with someone else. I object to the idea that because I have consulted someone, they get to impose their will upon me. But I make sure I do not put myself in that situation. I do not consider myself under anyone's care.