this is one of the hardest things with T's ... I used to have one that was the same religion and it really helped me feel closer and grow a lot in my relationship. Then when she died I tried another T of the same religion and it was terrible; beyond terrible, they tried to suggest the most destructive things and then tried the whole get rid of demons out of me line which didn't help. Anyway my current T's, one is an athiest and the other I'm not totally sure where he stands but my trust in other believers is really shaken.