This reminds me of something I have worked out recently.

I used to be a master of the email bombshell. But I am learning that email is not a good way to deal with difficult, emotional and complex topics. This applies to work just as much as to therapy.

If you want to discuss something important (eg you want a raise or a co-worker is not cooperating), ask for an appointment and deal with it face to face.

Instead of writing to my boss, "My co-worker is not keeping up with his paperwork and I've asked him a dozen times and he's ignoring me and I'm upset and he's unprofessional", I simply wrote, "Can I see you privately before the main meeting?"

It was scary to do that, but not as scary as launching my missile and waiting for the consequences!

One man's experience.