You haven't lost your identity; you have expanded it through the glorious gift of motherhood. However, since you are feeling overwhelmed and your husband is not contributing to the household, you might want to be extra-careful not to make any more babies until your financial and familial situation improves. You have gotten through the most physically demanding part of raising a child and things will improve for you from now on. I suggest if you have not, though, to now set a schedule for your child to go to bed, take naps, eat, and be bathed. Children thrive under loving limits. Between your husband being unemployed and your mother being there, you can and should carve out some time for yourself, preferably out of the house. After work, can you go for a walk or run? Can you take Saturday mornings to window-shop, go for coffee with a friend? I well understand the stresses of working full time and having a baby. I hope you will regard PC as a place to vent your frustrations and receive emotional support.