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Originally Posted by tigergirl
How did you convince yourself? I find it really hard, that my job is to take care of his feelings because that's what I do, but then after the last session i just wanted to not do it anymore and felt I had to
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My T has done the convincing.
He has caught me every time I've tried to do this, explained again and again how it is his job, how otherwise he cannot help me, that this is how therapy works and he is prepare for it and that he is capable to take care of himself... well it only took him 2 years
When asked, he admitted that he felt frustrated because I didn't/couldn't trust him even though he proved himself every time.
I'm not saying that I'm perfect at this now. Sometimes I am still inclined to regress to this behavior. But I tell myself, My T can take it, and start again.
And your feelings are right: it is not helpful for you (and probably frustrating for your T)
Please Tiger, try to trust him that he is good at his job and can help you if given the chance. However, if you don't think this is the case (him being a good T for you) it's better to look for someone new.
Take good care.
