I have had no contact for almost a year with my NPD/Borderline mother and my codependent father. The last time I saw them was just after I made my "final stand" to ask her to seek help or I would no longer be a part of her life. She chose to call me a stupid b*^%ch, twice, while holding my then 4-month old son in her arms. I told her to leave and haven't heard from her since. My father called in January to ask if he could come leave my presents at the door. I told him I didn't think it was a good idea, was still very angry with him and my mother and had a lot of feelings I couldn't get a hold on and was still working through. I haven't heard from them since, and don't really expect to.

The guilt is intense and I've recently begun taking Prozac to help with the intense anxiety and grief. It is helping, but there are so many wild crazy emotions attached to this that it's incredible. The worst part is that the rest of my extended family has basically cut off all contact with me. My husband's family well makes up for that, so I do have good support - but none of them know anything about my mother's NPD or BPD and I often feel like I'm trying to convince people that she's sick and I'm not a hateful person.

I just needed to say that. Does anyone else have any experience with going non-contact with the NPD/BPD in their life? What was it like? How did you deal with the guilt and the anxiety?

Thanks!