My first impulse is to say "don't give him any". If you allow him to get away with that, he's going to keep doing it, so best way is probably to nip it in the bud early. Unless you think he has some kind of social disorder where he can't express himself properly, there's no excuse for being an ***.

If he starts getting annoyed at you after a short time and tries to pressure you into having sex with him again, especially if he tries to blame you and coerce you by insulting you, you might need to re-evaluate your relationship.

Hopefully making him realise you are serious and him not getting what he wants will be enough to either convince him to try harder or else to show his true colours. If the sex isn't fulfilling to you because of this, don't just lie back and take it (no pun intended).

Of course, this is not my area of expertise, so hopefully someone else will come along soon with some more knowledgeable advice.