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Old Mar 03, 2012, 06:44 PM
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Originally Posted by CantExplain View Post
My T was certainly angry at me when she thought I was going to dump her. I actually challenged her on this later and she said she was FURIOUS.

Now you might think this is unprofessional and you might be right. But she says her first duty is to be real with me. Meaning, I suppose, that if she is angry with me it is wrong for her to hide it.

Hmmmm... This seems to be contrary to what everyone else is saying. But it works for us.
Glad it works for you, but I had enough "furious" from my ex-husband, so I much prefer my T's philosophy -- his first duty isn't to be real with me regardless of its possible effect on me -- his first duty is to think about and understand his real reaction and then share it with me only if it's likely to be helpful. In my case, furious would not be helpful at all, especially if he was furious about being dumped.
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Conversation with my therapist:

Doc: "You know, for the past few weeks you've seemed very disconnected from your emotions when you're here."
Me: "I'm not disconnected from my emotions. I just don't feel anything when I'm here."
(Pause)
Me: "Doc, why are you banging your head against the arm of your chair?"
Doc: "Because I'm not close enough to a wall."

It's official. I can even make therapists crazy.
Thanks for this!
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