. Exactly! It's almost like saying it IS you. I remember how relieved I felt in the first couple of weeks of therapy when i felt like what I had was NOT ME. BPD is NOT who you are. I think it is precisely how you act when you are NOT YOURSELF. It is almost like some kind of repression of the 'self'. The 'self' comes out when life is going smoothly, when relationships are stable and when the inner critic is silenced. For me, that is rare, but I think that is how non-BPD people are most of the time. I have found having labels thrown at me to be EXTREMELY damaging and I am happy to have a T who avoids them like the plague. I like to think of BPD as a kind of trauma that must be gotten over. **** happened early on in life and we just need help working through it. We were not simply born with ****** personalities. Personally I recommend ignoring this axis I and II stuff. The way you have described it, it would piss me off too.