I'm glad you are in love. In these mucky times that he chooses to take flight in, you could do special projects for happiness for yourself. Take special time to treat yourself to a special gift that he would give you but can't because he is depressed, (tell yourself he would want you to have that special thing if he was feeling better) Celebrate how good you are and how much you know that he know that you are really a great love in his life. Remember that marriage is a project anyway and there are throw away projects (days that suck and need trash can) Most the time good comes back once more, same as summer comes again and ice goes away. This storm will end but let yourself treat you good, through out the dispair he is going through. I think the first 4 years of marriage are the most crummy for testing of the emotional wires of a couple in love. The drum beats have to be understood. He has his rythem and you have yours but the key it to get to know the usual ups and downs and the heartbeat of the marriage than in year 5 you got it down, if you haven't gotten the divorce an or killed eachother!