I don't think that my therapist has ever asked me anything scary. . . personally, I think that when I get triggered or respond in a way that indicates that I was startled or scared, it's because something inside of me was triggered with what we were talking about . . . and I know that the thing we were talking about would have NOT triggered or scared a person who wasn't dealing with issues that demanded hypervigliance. We look to our therapist's as the culprits, the one's who trigger fear, but in realitiy it is most likely our past.