I think it makes a difference if you are in "Christian Counseling". At least, I feel that way. There are certain things that I feel are not 'proper' to bring up. That's why I am having such a hard time with this. Will we go to what the Bible says about feelings such as this? Or will we stick to what psychology teaches us? Maybe she will choose one. Maybe both. This is where I am struggling so bad. Who can I turn to?

I want to talk it out with someone else. Not with her. That way I can sort this all out, and then (when my emotions are calmed down), I can bring it up to her. I have my own beliefs and morals about sex. My thoughts and feelings about her go against that. My sister went into therapy 20 years ago during a bitter divorce. She came out of therapy and married a woman. How did that happen?