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Originally Posted by Leed
Hi ~ First I''d like to say that she is lucky to have people like you around her to look out for her best interests! Not everyone is so fond of their mother-in-law. LOL.
I would think that your first issue would be to address her depression. She needs to see her doctor for a check-up. There could be some other things going on too, but this depression should be talked about with him. Try to get her to go. She sounds like a bit of a stubborn woman, and I'll bet she doesn't see her doc regularly, but she really should go.
I agree she should be sleeping upstairs -- that basement isn't healthy at all !! Why not suggest that she could decorate the upstairs bedroom any way she wanted to --- that she could re-do it completely. Perhaps that would encourage her to sleep in that room instead of the basement. And tell her she could take a FEW things from the basement and put them in the upstairs bedroom, but NOT everything!. LOL
She really should get rid of all those autos. Does she have a garage for all of them? Are they all licensed? If they're not licensed, many cities, counties will FINE people for having "unlicensed junk" cars on their property -- even if they're perfectly good cars and driveable. And if she puts licenses on them, that's pretty expensive! Why not sell them, and get the money? Let someone else get the benefit from them? Besides, she needs a safer car for herself -- the 2008 is just too big for her, making it dangerous. She's liable to get hurt or hurt someone else. Tell her she MUST sell them.
I think most of the things you mentioned will get taken care of after her depression is taken care of. Right now she feels overwhelmed due to feeling so helpless. Mentally she just can't handle all this. Counseling could help, or perhaps an antidepressant is needed. Her doctor will know what's best.
I wish you the very best. She's lucky to have you. Best of luck and God bless. Hugs. Lee
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Thank you for kind words
She definately becomes overwhelmed at times, my wife and I always try to make ourselves available to help her with big tasks.
The autos are actually in good shape and she has a garage to keep two in. It would be cheaper for her in the long run to consolidate and I am going to have to slowly convince her from a long term cost standpoint
It will just take time.