I do not believe in the whole parts idea. I think it stifles and splits the fact that you are one whole person - adult and with active agency in your own life. We all have aspects of ourselves that act differently. We all have different roles and behaviours that we exhibit given the situation.

It's not a pathology, it's us. Sometimes we may feel like we are opposite sides of the coin, but, bottom line, it is the same coin.

I think what is really at issue here is "what is my authentic, honest self". I believe that they all are. None of the emotions or reactions that we experience are false, but originate from us - a whole individual with adult and competent volition in our lives.

I know that some therapies encourage exploration of these parts, actually promote giving them names and independent voices, but the thing is, the thing that these therapies strive for is integration of these parts. In my opinion, they never were really separate to begin with. It's an exercise in spinning one's wheels in order to get to the same place.

Just my opinion, but the truth the way I see it.