"Did you?" I had been deliberately avoiding a specific incident for 20 years and then had to beat around the bush using it as an example only my T misunderstood what I was saying and I had to decide whether to tell her specifically or let her continue to misunderstand and just gloss over that example and use another. I decided I had to tell her rather than "lie"/omit and after I did, that was the worst 15 seconds of my life, worrying about how she would respond. She got it "right" though and recognized we did not have to talk about it, it wasn't an issue in our joint therapy work.