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Old Mar 04, 2012, 10:18 AM
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If you can't remember your early childhood, I don't think you have to put yourself through pushing yourself to remember. You could just address what you do remember that you are struggling with.

None of us can go back and change the things that happened to us. The important thing to keep in mind is that your dealing with these memories to find a way to put them to rest and find a resolve. A therapist will be there to listen and help you talk it out and in doing that you can work on ways to be validated and also to realize that at the time you were not at fault and you honestly didn't understand the situation.

And you don't have to provide every detail either and you don't have to remember every detail and struggle trying to put it into words.

What I did was talk with my T about the topic and my confusion about how certain individuals mistreated me in my past. I am still working on that and doing it a little at a time. I couldn't talk about it very much but I could talk about the topic and why it can happen and what it means and how I can work through it, how people who have these memories are addressed in therapy. And I did need to get out the anger about what happened as well as a sense of betrayl. And in therapy you can work on finally morning whatever you remember and work on ways to not let it interfere with you life now.

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Open Eyes
Thanks for this!
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