I don't think that therapy is supposed to be about the relationship between you and your therapist. In fact I thought you were not supposed to be making it be about you and her. I see the relationship as an important part of therapy, but only to the point of enabling you to work on the real issues that brought you to therapy in the first place. My relationship with my therapist is foundational and helps me to heal and grow, but the real work is not the relationship itself.