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Originally Posted by eastcoaster
- I know that going to the gym will ease my depression, help me to lose weight, get me out of my house, etc. But then there's this other part of me that fights against going to the gym (and often wins...). So, we're working on understanding why this part exists and have it more in line with the logical part that knows that going to the gym..
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Oh lord, I have absolutely no idea why I am so vocal about this on this Sunday morning. Perhaps I'm feeling "part-ish" myself, and it's just an exaggerated defense, don't know. BUT
This gym thing, I think, kind of illustrates what I'm essentially talking about. Let's say I need to go to the gym. I know that, but don't go.
Who is responsible for me not going? *I* can either take responsbility for not going OR I can shift that to a *part* of me that doesn't want to go.
I think by shifting it onto a part, and away from myself, then I am essentially robbing myself - the whole me, from the ability to fix it. The part, rather than me accepts responsibility. To me, it's splitting my own innate ability to effect change in my life.
I mean after all, it won't be a part of me on that treadmill, but all of me sweating and really hating it.
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Originally Posted by eastcoaster
- I disagree with elliemay's statement: "The very idea of the fragmentation of self, promotes the fragmentation of self."
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I absolutely 100% respect that you disagree, we all have our opinions. I like the discussion and hope it helps people to find a therapy that is right for them. We are all different.
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Originally Posted by eastcoaster
Elliemay, have you ever done IFS? If so and you found this, that's certainly valid, but if not, then perhaps you might want to try it and see if your hypothesis is indeed valid.
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However, I do not agree with the statement that my opinion is not valid having never tried IFS. Opinions,
per se are opinions. Neither valid, nor invalid, but open to all to accept or not. Again, though that's just my opinion
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