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Old Mar 04, 2012, 04:05 PM
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Thank you Pandoren- actually I think that is very knowledgeable advice. The reason I was so upset is that I could not tell if this is a communication issue (i.e. my boyfriend needs to learn some skills for saying what he wants without snapping), or there is some deeper dynamic at play that is only going to get worse. Both of us grew up in verbally abusive households. When I brought up this issue, indeed his first response was "you have serious issues misinterpreting people's tone of voice, you're too sensitive etc etc." Later on when we really got into talking about it, he admitted that he just wanted to push some blame on me so he didn't feel ashamed for getting mad at me. In the meantime though, I got very very upset. I am really worried, because I want to be able to work out this issue, but I'm not sure that my boyfriend has the sufficient self-awareness and self-control to really change. You are right that we might just need some time apart for now.