Ellie, I see your point and had the same opinion until just recently. I think both are right actually, just said different ways. and while one thing can be helpful for one person it can be harmful for another. Such as the idea of fragmenting self promoting it. That may be true for some.. but it may be helpful for some, as no one is created alike or responds the same way.

Mykidsarecool, I'm so sorry that happened to you and that you are going through what you are because of it.

My T said that this dissociation of parts exists on a spectrum. Some have it more mildly than others. For me, he said they are not seperate 'personalities' so to speak but just seperate parts of the same me. He described it as a ball that along the way has gotten cracked or 'divided' but not completely seperated because they are all held together at the core...they just dont fit well together anymore. Anyway one part can get moving (or two or three) and make the whole ball roll. His example for me was the part of me that wanted me dead. Something relatively "small" will happen that will cause the part of me to go hopeless which will fuel the self hatred part which will roll the ball towards suicide. The goal he said, is to bring them back together to get me working as a whole instead of against myself.

Hope that makes sense to someone.