Hi Jess

The only thing that I was told to help those triggers not to be meant to be harmful is to keep doing it. Like the touch on the back of my neck , whenever my boyfriend does it it wasn't meant to be hurtful so she told me (my shrink) is to get him to keep doing it and then eventually the mind will click in that it isn't meant to harm and that trigger will stop eventually.

When I was raped it was a violent. My ex threatened me alot (a few times anyways) that he could rape me if he wanted too. We lost our virginity together and after that is when he got worse wanting it all the time, he had to get off minimum 3 times a day ect.

That one afternoon we were in my room (we were always in my room) and he wanted to, I Said that I didn't want to , I think there was threat there at that time, and it just happened, i never thought it was rape until I was told...

Anyways so that's what happened to me.

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