I can relate Candelaria. My T frequently tells me the same thing - that too often I try to intellectualize the pain away instead of sitting with it and feeling it in a safe space, and letting it go naturally instead of trying to avoid it.

I have cried and cried and cried the last few months, both in therapy and at home. T told me that when the tears come (and it's appropriate to do so, like not when I'm at work) to just let them come. T suggested I journal, just writing whatever comes to mind, even if it makes no sense at all. Journaling when crying doesn't really seem to help me, either, but T assured me that eventually, the tears will be less, the pain will be less, and the words will make sense as to why the tears are there.

The biggest thing I think T wants from me, at least, is to not try and think my way out of the emotions surrounding the painful memories. Not sure how to do that fully yet, but I'm trying.

Good luck to you...