Rapunzel, you are always welcome to borrow anything I say...of course you have to pay me royalties. Ha ha.

Val,
You said something that clicked for me--what if that fence that seperates us from the "norms" is self hate? We become angry about our mistakes because we have been taught that we have to be perfect, or that we can never be good enough, or that our mistakes will be used against us. Could that be the case?
Carrie

<font color=green>But the implicit and usually unconscious bargain we make with ourselves is that, yes, we want to be healed, we want to be made whole, we're willing to go some distance, but we're not willing to question the fundamental assumptions upon which our way of life has been built, both personally and societally.--Bill Plotkin, Soulcraft