I struggle with this too, but for slightly different reasons. I hate how having a PD is blamed on us- like we choose to be like we are, respond in the ways we do, behave in the ways we do. I did not choose to grow up in an abusive,emotionally neglectful and invalidating environiment, where no one cared about me and I was left to bring myself up, but I am the one who gets the blame for everything. I'm getting the feeling recently that even my T thinks the same- It's the way we act and if we really wanted to do something about it then we would. Yet if we had a "proper psychiatric condition" i.e., one that can be treated with medication then we would be seen to have an illness which would not be blamed on us.

I work in the medical field and a nurse was telling me about a patient with BPD (no one knows I am BPD), and she said "People with personality disorders are the worst patients because theu do not want to change. They do not think they have a problem and psychiatrists don't know what to do with them because there isn't a medication they can prescribe. That patient is a hopeless case"

I hate how we receive a lack of empathy from lots of people because PDs are seen as our fault. Many times I wish I was schizophrenic or bipolar just so someone would tell me all this is not all my fault and to get some understanding rather than feeling such a bad person and hopeless