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Originally Posted by struggling2 thats great, sarah michelle & towanda....that sounds awesome. so do you use that relationship as a guide and slowly learn how to have that in the real world and "wean yourself off" of T and try to have those relationships in real life or is T always there?

Well, I am very fortunate. I have a wonderful marriage of 34 years and 3 great kids - warm supportive relationships all around. What he does model for me is the ability to be open and truthful with my feelings, to feel safe with people outside my nuclear family, to build friendships, to take chances with another human being - all things I have trouble with. And yes, I have learned slowly over the years to move T and therapy out of my focal point and into the background where it belongs. I no longer lean on him or depend on him the way I did in the beginning.

However, that being said, he is still always there for me if necessary. Crisis seldom, if ever, arise anymore, but if they do he is available for me. We are in what, I guess you could call, a maintenance phase, working towards termination.

Hope that answered your question