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Originally Posted by rainbow8
We've talked about it a lot in my sessions. My T says we have a "real relationship" though we're not friends or anything else other than T and client. She's a real person to me, and I like that person. She doesn't act like she's better than me; she's just herself. But now I don't trust that. I'm afraid my feelings for her are all transference feelings and that I'm betraying myself, if that makes any sense. Will it all come crashing down?
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The fantasy can never be fulfilled, and it was painful for me to realise that. But underneath the fantasy relationship is a
real relationship. Once I let go of the fantasy, I found the reality was pretty good too.
I had a fantasy that T would adopt me. In my head, I knew this was impossible, but my heart believed it. And my heart felt betrayed and destroyed when it realised the truth.
But the reality was that I loved her and she loved me, and for an hour a week I was the most important person in her life.
Rainbow, your feelings are coloured and exaggerated by transference. But there is a core that is
real.
Yes, you
can trust your real relationship with T.