critterlady, I was waiting for that question. Watching your T's fingers is only one way to do EMDR. It was the first way, but now there are others. I got dizzy and couldn't do the fingers method. I hold little buzzers in my hands, and my T controls them. They vibrate, alternating left and right. I also wear headphones, where the sounds also alternate left and right. My T has to sit on a chair close to me because of the wires for the buzzers and headphones, but my eyes are closed so it's fine.

I like to look into my T's eyes, though, and to look at her. There's always time in the beginning of the session for that too.