Thread: Was this abuse?
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Old Mar 05, 2012, 06:41 PM
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Yes, anyone who touches you that way is doing something they shouldn't do. This may have been something that someone was doing to her and she may not have understood what it meant. And I am sure that you didn't understand it either at that age.

Try to remember what age you were, don't put what you know now into a guilt for what you didn't understand then. Remember this was in your past, it is not taking place now, you feel confused and disgusting because you understand more about sexual things now. Be kinder to yourself than that, never blame yourself for things you didn't understand. These memories are simply unsolved/unresolved so that is why you are thinking of it now. You must tell yourself the truth, though it was a troubling experience you just didn't know better and your ok now, your not a bad person.

Sorry that happened to you, but please know that you didn't understand it, and maybe that other girl didn't really understand it either, as I said, someone probably did that to her and she may have thought that is something people just do somehow.

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