I don't think the eye colour thread showed fixation with the therapist, it was a lighthearted thread about whether clients are comfortable making eye contact.

Things like books, etc.. I guess we like to compare experiences of what is 'normal' in therapy...

Yes some people seem to be fixated with their T... Jury is out on whether it's 'healthy', I guess, but I guess it depends on just how fixated... I think it's natural to be curious about someone you share so many intimate details with yet know very little about... Then there are transference issues... But the thing I keep hearing/reading again and again is how important the therepeutic relationship/ the connection is, and for some people (like me) this kind of closeness is unusual or something never before experienced, so it throws up a lot of thoughts and feelings that we find it helpful to explore here on the boards.

I wouldn't say I'm 'fixated' with my T - though she means a lot to me and I think she's all kinds of amazing - I'm more 'fixated' with the therapy itself, with the process...