nightdream

septmorn is absolutely right.

there could be many reasons that the situation upset you. could have triggered something from your past, could be simply that you were looking for a calming uneventful evening out and this fight interfered.

in any case she is not your responsibility. you are your responsibility. It was kind of you to help her in the past but if circumstances make you unable or uncomfortable to do so now then what you have to do is take care of yourself now. both because you may not have the energy to help her, and because trying to help her might cause you addition stress that you need to avoid now.

i wouldn't worry too much about why it triggered you. if you are concerned about it then bring it up with your doc just for your peace of mind. but not because you owe anyone else an explanation, because you don't. please don't feel "stupid" or "worthless" just for recognizing your limits. knowing when to say no for your own well being shows some smarts and shows that you value yourself which is number 1. following through with that shows a lot of strength.

if you need to, want to, have an opportunity to talk to these people soon or this woman in particular be honest about not being able to help. if you talk to her you can recommend that she seek help or get back on her meds but ONLY if it won't open the door for you caring for her again right now. be honest with her that you can't be there right now. if this is likely to be emotional then don't say anything to her or anyone. like i said she is NOT your responsibility and you don't owe anyone an explanation. if you feel you owe yourself an explanation, as to the root of the feelings that were stired up, then that is something you can pursue on your own if you want to.

unless it is bugging you, i wouldn't worry about it at all, just accept the situation as aggravating (it was an event that would be stressful to anybody, i'm sure the other people there didn't know what to do!) plus you have some history with the woman and that is reason enough to get upset and walk away.

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