He said that he would be the clock watcher... that we would start talking bout the difficult thing first thing... and that he would make sure we stopped with enough time for us to get back to the here and now before session time would be up...

He said we didn't have to talk about it all at once... he said it was like a big pile of junk covered up with a tarp...we could just talk about the pile first... like how would it feel to lift up a corner.?.. and how would if the pile got smaller? and how we could sift through the junk and explore it in little pieces and then box it up... and then go through another little pile.... and that every session didn't have to be about it...we could just have a breather lighter subjects inbetween...and that I could set the pace...

He told me that nothing that I would say would change what he thought of me...but that he might have a reaction to what I said...he might be angry for me... or he may be upset that I had to go through that... (I on the other hand only say things like a fact with no feelings)...

but it was good and safe and a once we started talking about talking about it... I had a big memory come back and it really helped lift off the tarp so to speak...