sakijuju,
Confusdinomicon has some very good advice. I can see that you are trying to leave this ex girlfriend with what YOU want her to remember. You kept insisting on putting in a completion of your need to justify whatever good things you thought you did. But in insisting on doing that, you were intruding on her desire NOT to want to listen, which is her right and you have to respect that. Given the fact that she is in a verbally abusive relationship with her father, the least you can do is allow her to say NO on her own terms. By not allowing her to do that and needing to push your final thoughts her way, the way YOU want to end the relationship, you are being no better than her father who doesn't respect her either. So, in the end even if you do end it the way YOU want to end it, your not being considerate of HER. LET IT GO.

You have to cut your losses and work on YOU. Remember that just because YOU want to get the last word in for your own sense of some kind of control, IT IS NOT ALWAYS THE BEST WAY TO ADDRESS OTHERS. You cannot make others think like you think and push yourself on them. Yes others may be wrong, so that is their problem, you have to work on YOU.

This is something that a lot of people have to learn, not just you, I even have to work on this. And it isn't always easy because I am working on standing up for myself too and there sometimes is a fine line that I don't always see. BUT, I am learning all the time that some people are just going to be stubborn and think they have it all or are above all. So unless it directly effects me, I just let them go, and it isn't important they take any of me with them either. I often just choose to take the higher road and let them have their own issues. You cannot fix others, they have to learn how to do that for themselves.

Open Eyes