The question is how do YOU feel about it? I can give you my experience but it is going to be totally different for you because we lived different lives. But here goes, I will do it anyway. Just take it with a grain of salt.

For a long time the only way I could enjoy sex was if it was rough. The pain would keep me present. It kept me from dissociating. But after awhile even that didn't work. I discovered that I was replaying over and over again the abuse that I took as a child. I deserve to be hurt because I was bad and wanting sex was bad and feeling good was bad and the list could go on and on. To be touched gently gave me the creeps. I ended up avoiding sex at all costs because no matter what we did it would end up with me feeling bad and hurting myself afterwards.

So for me being rough was not healthy. It started as a cover up for other pain then ended up being a problem in itself. Is this the way for you? I don't know. Ask yourself how it makes you feel. Is it a cover up or just fun and games?
Zen

<font color=blue>that I would be good even if I did nothing, that I would be good even if I got the thumbs down, that I would be good if I got and stayed sick, that I would be good even if I gained 10 pounds-- Alanis Morissette