(((((((((((((( bj )))))))))))))))

I think you are onto something there.....grieving over what we wished or hoped a relationship could have/should have been to us. It's very similar to the grief we feel when we divorce. We grieve for our lost dreams of what we hoped and assumed would be our live's pleasures.

The good news is that it's possible to feel the grief of the loss and still work through it and come out on the other side of the grief, in better shape than when we went into it. I definitely agree that working with a T through this would be extremely beneficial to you. As Calista said, it's a complex grief. I liken it to a cut diamond with many facets to look at. Each one has it's own particular shape to be dealt with.

I wish you well in this journey bj. Remember this, you are not wrong in any feeling you may be having, there is no right or wrong way to grieve, it's what it is for you personally.


sabby