All this is what I've been going through these past few months, maybe more, in my therapy. For me it is parental transference. Started out not being sure if I liked her as I had just ended a therapy relationship with a therapist that I really liked right away and developed that parental transference for (after therapy with her had ended). So I was very guarded with trusting her and opening up to her and didn't want to do the same thing however it happened anyway. Few months ago she said: "Bad Jenn doesn't like me." Inside my head I heard "Good Jenn loves you" and realized that I 'love' her. Several months prior to that I had wondered if the same thing was happening with her as it did with my other therapist. She does know this. I told her that I 'love her' this January. The most recent thing that I wrote (I journal a ton) that she saw I said that "my feelings for her haven't changed. I still love her. Love you Dr (first initial of last name). Love you Dr (shortened version of her first name that she uses)." She said that we'll talk about 'love' during our next session in a couple days. This forum has been great cause I seem to be going through a lot of the things that others are going through as well. It is good to know that I'm not the only one who this stuff happens to.
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