I'm sorry I'm just going to jump on a conclusion here.
Sounds to me that there has been ALOT of drama in your relationship and when you finally "don't do anything" she gets bored.
I've had that psychological problem of graving for drama. I am still trying to get out of it. Before I read a book about my condition I couldn't stand a week without my doses of anxiety, struggle to overcome something and the adrenalin in it. I've been fighting my need of drama for a year now and I still get the feeling of "boredom" when nothing bad has happened for a while. But all this is triggered by my childhood where there has been violence, death of a family member and alcoholism.
So I'm saying that MAYBE your wife has that? She is ten months sober and you're becoming clean and she's bored and is talking about giving your relationship up. Have you considered couples counselling?

I'm sorry if all this don't make sense, I just think that every big action digs deep into the roots.

Wish you all the best, sounds like you truly love your wife <3

Heidi.