Fmcconaughy, I am very sorry that happened to you, it was abuse. I can tell you that when people tell you that you should be over it by now they are not being fair to you and they do not know what they are talking about. I had this happen to me as well, I struggled with bad experiences and situations that I could not seem to just "get over" and I was constantly told that I was wrong and weak and I was constantly cruely dismissed and invalidated for struggling. The other common saying was "Just Let it go", you have to "Learn to let it go".

Since I have been in therapy and have been diagnosed with PTSD, I have learned that people who suffer abuse or trama CAN have great difficulty "Just getting over it". The memories can come up and disturb someone even years after the abuse or trama as well. When this happens it is very important to see a therapist that can validate you and help you talk about the abuse/trama in a way that your brain can work on resolving it. Your brain never had answers, all that happened was that the abuse finally stopped and even though you did tell your mother, that didn't resolve the trama you experienced from those abusive/tramatic moments in your life.

You need to seek help from a therapist so you can slowly work this out and that these memories don't continue to upset and disturb your life now. It is very important that you DO get help so you can be validated and finally heal properly.

(((((((Hugs)))))))))

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