I hate the long silences when I don't know WHY they are there. Sometimes, as other posters have said, I know that he's giving me room to think. He has made a comment and wants to give me time to consider. In those cases, I just have to say, "that makes sense" or "I'll think about that later this week." It's when I'm not sure why there's there huge silence that I get angry.

And it took a while to realize I was ANGRY and not just UNCOMFORTABLE. I think part of my anger may be due to my profession and how I use silence in my profession. As an attorney, I use silence to make opposing parties, or witnesses uncomfortable on purpose. When people become uncomfortable with silence, they tend to want to fill the silence, and start talking without thinking -- babbling. The more they talk, the more I get information that I can use against them, or to further my case. So, when my T sits there in silence for no good fricking reason, I feel like he is making me uncomfortable on purpose and seeking something he can use against him.

I've worked really hard at overcoming my trust issues, and I know that no one else (Guarddog) has trust issues, hahahaha, but this is a big one for me.