Maybe if you find something else to do, that you might like (go to a movie?)

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the therapy thing right now and when I did it never really helped me, though it did tend to make my life miserable for bringing up situations I have already resolved in my life... why must they always think it is the past that does this

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Nothing that I have "resolved" is a problem anymore. Only those issues that haven't been fully resolved help make my life miserable. Perhaps it isn't the past issues that are problems, but how they affected us, and thus how we incorrectly respond to current issues the same poor way? I know with some things from past, they created a patterning of the brain's response... and it takes therapy to recognize and reprogram (so to speak) the brain.

Stress takes expert help to deal with, imo. Maybe if you find a T that will help you with one current issue at a time? Or even, if you can, work through it with your spouse? IDK. I hope you find some relief soon . TC