Strange thing is, it didn't really manifest with my x. Idk, maybe we weren't THAT close for him to have that effect on me. But with this guy, man it's scary, for both of us. And idk bout the reassurance thing. He always just felt attacked,dissapeared to lick his wounds, and then reappear some time later.
I'm convinced it would help, coz atleast I'd have verbal proof that my brain's lying, but no such luck.